Who doesn’t want to be loved? It doesn’t matter if you’re educated, uneducated, young, old, rich or poor, every being on this planet loves to be loved. Although it’s great to say “I love you” often to your loved ones, how many of us really mean it? How often does it come from your soul? The most precious things in life are said in silence. I am going to mention some of those below and let you say “I love you” without uttering a word. Some of these suggestions may apply to your loved ones, while some for even the stranger on the road. Apply these suggestions wisely and you may just fill your heart chakra with a lot of inspiring energy!
Compliments: Genuine compliments are hard to come by. We don’t hear them very much! What if you start a practice of complimenting someone every day? Keep in mind that some people may block your compliments and give you a cold shoulder. This has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. Don’t take it personally. Try it with them again after a few days. Most people love receiving a genuine compliment, and the ones that don’t are the ones that need it most. So, let your intention be to compliment those who seem to reject it. You may end up creating more trust and love in their lives and, ultimately, in our planet.
Hugs: Hugs come with therapeutic power. A hug with right intention allows a sacred exchange of healing. I just saw a post on my Facebook newsfeed that said a longer hug brings about feelings of joy and bliss. The post further mentioned that a sincere hug produces a hormone called oxytocin, which makes us feel safe, relaxed and calm. It is recommended to hug for a duration of 20 seconds. Start with those that already feel safe with you or that need and expect love from you. Once you are comfortable enough to spread this 20-second love, you are free to spread it all over.
Kiss: A small peck on the cheek or a long, passionate kiss in the rain, both can speak volumes. A kiss says that you are loved, admired and cherished. Let kissing and being kissed become a new addition to your love menu. I am not asking you to jump on anyone that you feel like kissing (I know there may be a few or many!). But at least let your loved ones feel that you said “I love you” with such a gentle gesture.
No tweets: Actions speak louder than your tweets. Instead of writing fancy love posts on your Twitter or Facebook, try to just give your undivided attention to your loved ones when you are around them. This means no Facebook or Twitter or Instagram use while they are with you. If they see you doing it, they may also follow your example, which leads to comfortable distance between people. We need more genuine connection, more heart-felt interaction, more intense presence with our loved ones. Don’t Instagram the special dinner before acknowledging the actual presence of everyone sitting at the table. Give social media a rest and arrive in the now, with love.
Gratitude: Express gratitude as often as possible. Your “Thank you” is more touching than “I love you” at times. Pick small moments in the day that you can use to express gratitude. Don’t limit your gratitude either. Acknowledge each and every person that helps you in some way. The cleaning lady in your office, or the building security manager, or the stranger in the supermarket that helped you. There are so many people that are deserving of your gratitude. Open your awareness to all the souls around you!
Since I don’t have any way of showing my love to you right now, I will use my words to express love to all that took time to read this article. My intention is to help you spread the silent love all over the globe!
Chandresh Bhardwaj is a spiritual guide who specializes in the Eastern sciences of healing and transformation. He is also the founder of Break the Norms, a center of self-discovery, personal growth and increased well-being, located in New York and California. Break The Norms offers weekly meditation and yoga classes, as well as Ayurveda workshops. Location of New York center: 47 W. Nicholai St., Hicksville. For more information, call 516-938-9600 or visit BreakTheNorms.com. See ad on page 43.